What do you Really Want?

Last month I was having trouble coming up with a list of what I wanted for my birthday, much to my wife’s dismay.   When I was a kid I had a list five miles long of things I wanted, but now it’s not as easy.  That got me to thinking about what is it that I really want?   All of my needs are covered and enough of my wants are covered that there are relatively few things I really want that I don’t already have.  

I already have so much of many categories of things that there just isn’t time to enjoy more.  For example I already have more books that I would like to read but not enough time to read them.   I also have more video games then I have time to play.  I could get newer/better versions of things I already have- but I don’t think it would make that big of a difference in my life.   

I have a lot of 2nd hand wants from my kids or my wife but they aren’t really things I want.  After a fair amount of thought I did come up with a big one- time.  I would like to have more time.   The most practical way to get that would be to accumulate enough wealth that I can stop working.   Of course that would be an insane birthday gift…  I’m going to have to work for myself and it will take a number of years more.  However, I’m slowly getting there.  If I can just keep going I know I will get there. 

In the mean time I asked for some more video games and books- I just hope that I can finish them before next year so that I can come up another list.

2 Responses to “What do you Really Want?”

  1. ashtonfourie says:

    I realized some time ago that the way we can decide whether we should buy something, is to think about what we will actually DO with it, and WHEN we will be doing that.

    Because that is the only true utilitarian value anything gives us. DOING something (and there I include a beautiful painting that I can LOOK at, but not if it’s going to hang in a safe! (I’m not talking about investments here – I’m talking about things like video games, boats, etc.)

    What most of us want most, is the ultimate luxury – enough time. And funny enough, every time we buy a new thing (or get a new gift) it steals a bit of our time, because now we have to use that thing.

    Next year, ask your wife for more time together.

    It will be worth more than any gift you can buy!

  2. Rick Francis says:


    Thank you for your comment- that is an interesting idea. We have done something similar for our kids getting them some kind of lessons as a gift instead of toys. It strikes me that it would be best if the gift of time could be made more concrete- perhapse some kind of “cupon” for a date or other specific activity we would do together. Have you done this before, if so how specifically did you do it?

    -Rick Francis

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